Many people are alone over the holidays for a variety of reasons. Being alone can have several different definitions. It can mean you are by yourself, that you are separated by physical distance from family, or separated by emotional distance from family, you may have work obligations or you may just want some alone time.
But if your loneliness is not by choice (you may prefer the options above) and it is having a negative impact on you or your family here are some things you can do. Remember, it is not about the calendar date or name of the day. It is about spending time with people you value or spending time doing something that makes you happy.
1) Reach out to others. Many people have relatives that live out of town and are looking to host an even to celebrate the holidays. It can be fun to host a holiday with friends and neighbors. You can even break tradition and host a game night. Many people will appreciate having a fun and relaxed evening with friends to help manage the stress of being with relatives at upcoming events.
2) Get involved in the community. Check out local holiday events (Christkindlmarket or the McCormack Ice Rink in Chicago), volunteer for a local organization or participate in local events. Being around others can help you feel less alone and give you an opportunity to meet others.
3) Use the day for self-care. Take a day to binge-watch movies or shows, and enjoy them without interruption. Start a new book. Take on a cooking challenge, or treat yourself to something you don’t ordinarily have the time for.
4) Remember that list of things you would like to do if only you had the time? Start working on those tasks. You will feel a sense of accomplishment getting things done.
5) It’s ok to feel the way you do. Holidays are overwhelming. Reach out to others for support and seek professional support if the feelings of loneliness persist or start to overwhelm you.